Isn’t it everyone’s dream to get married to the love of their life? All of us wish to get married to someone we love, share a great understanding with, and want to spend the rest of our lives together. As per Vedic astrology, the first step to deciding the compatibility of a prospective couple is Kundali Matching. It is a very important step in the process of marriage and people don’t take it for granted.
Kundali Matching or Kundali Milan or Gun Milan is an eight-step process which includes matching the Gunas of the soon to be bride and groom. Each step has some points allocated to it and in the end, the total score is calculated which then decides the compatibility of the couple. The maximum score possible is 36 Gunas if a couple of scores anything between 18-32, it is a good match and they can go ahead with it, if a couple scores more than 32, then they have similar personalities and will be highly compatible. However, if a couple scores less than 18, then the match is said to be inauspicious and it is suggested to not go ahead with the union.
There is nothing to get disheartened about. There is a solution to everything, there have been cases where the couple scored less than 18 in the Kundali Matching process but are leading a very happy and prosperous married life. Over the years, astrologers have come up with various remedies for the different kinds of Doshas which lead to a mismatch in Kundalis.
Before getting into those remedies, there some general things which you can try such as consulting a different astrologer or using some other way of matching Kundalis like by date of birth or by name. You can also try reciting religious mantras and wearing healing gemstones. However, if none of these ways work for you, then you will have to go for specific remedial measure targeting the different doshas that are possible.
Doshas in Kundali Matching are quite common, so there is nothing to panic about. However, it is important to undertake steps to eliminate or reduce the effect of these doshas so as to ensure a happy and harmonious married life. Presence of Doshas in Kundali Matching can lead to the following issues in your married life:
- Never ending fights and arguments in marriage.
- Problems in conceiving.
- Negative impact on the health of both the partners and their respective families.
- Losses in business or degradation in career.
- Ill effects on the physical relationship.
To avoid all such problems, it is very important to take up some remedial measures which target the specific doshas.
Varna Dosha and Vasya Desha
As per Vedic astrology, the groom should belong to a superior Varna as well as Vasya than the bride to have a prosperous marriage. If it’s the other way round, then the couple is said to be incompatible and they might have to face issues in their marriage. However, not every type of Varna and Vasya dosh does damage to the marriage, so the first step is to understand if the dosh will hamper the marriage. If the answer is yes, you shouldn’t worry as it can be rectifies with astrological remedies like Yantras, reciting mantras, arranging Pujas and making donations to the poor and needy.
If the Yoni of the groom and bride add up to be enemy or extreme enemy then Yoni Dosha is said to be present. In such cases, astrologers suggest to avoid marriage as it can have some serious ill effects on the union. However, Yoni Dosha is said to be nullifies under the following conditions:
- The Rashi or the moon sign of both the bride and groom should belong to a common planet, in other words, they should belong to the same Rashi or the lords should be friendly.
- Another condition is that the Navamsha lord of the bride and groom should be the same or friends.
- Bhakoot dosha is not present in the Kundalis of the bride and groom.
Nadi dosh is believed to be a very serious dosh and can have adverse negative impacts on the married life of the couple. It is very important to take steps to nullify or reduce the effects of Nadi Dosh in order to have a harmonious married life. Some of the steps that can be taken are:
- Getting jewelry made of healing gemstones.
- Reciting the Mahamritunjaya Mantra for the number of times advised by the astrologer.
- Arranging a Nadi Nirvana Puja.
- Making donations of grains, clothes and cow to a Brahmin family.
- Getting the bride married to Lord Vishnu first.
- Changing lifestyle to bring peace and harmony in life.
The Mangal Dosha occurs when the Mars of either the bride or groom is not in a favorable position. It is a very serious dosh and it needs to be eliminated, consider the following points in case of Mangal Dosh:
- A union of two Mangliks is said to nullify the dosh making it auspicious.
- Arranging a Kumbh Vivah which means getting the person with Mangal married to a peepal tree or a statue of Lord Vishnu.
- Keeping a fast one every Tuesday is said to prove very effective in reducing the Mangal Desha.
- Along with a fast, an individual should recite the Navgraha mantra or Hanuman Chalisa every Tuesday.
- According to Vedic Astrology, a person with Mangal Dosha should wait till they turn 28 before getting married, as the intensity of the Dosh decreases by then.
This is a Dosh that cannot be avoided. The impact of Bhakoot dosh cannot be seen instantly, it is a slow killer and the effect will be seen gradually over time. There isn’t a foolproof remedy to eliminate Bhakoot dosh but reciting mantras, wearing gemstones can prove to be really effective in reducing the ill effects of Bhakoot Dosh.